What are Soul Mates?

How often have you heard someone say they were either looking for their soulmate or they had found their soulmate?

Generally, the person is speaking about finding a romantic partner that they can relate to and love for the rest of this life. At other times, the person may be speaking of a romantic partner who seems to complete them in some way or someone who is so much like them that compatibility is a given.

Which description is correct? Actually, neither one is what a soul mate happens to be; although, in the first case, it is partially correct. Let’s take a look at exactly what a soulmate is and what their purpose is in our lives.

In the Beginning

Souls enter this life in groups called soul families or soul groups. Think of the soul as a massive energy form – they split themselves into 7 different souls where everyone is each other’s soul mate. Each soul mate further splits itself into a perfect male and female counterpart and they are known as twin-flames.

Why do souls split into so many parts? It is because it is like a group of 14 explorers that want to discover the universe together. Each of make an unbreakable pack agreeing to meet back together some time into the future to consolidate and aggregate their soul experiences together. Perhaps they can cover more ground this way considering it takes millions of lifetimes to complete this arduous task.

Sometimes souls can get tired and return back to source to recharge even though there will always be someone out there exploring. Sometimes soul mates travel around and they can get lost – forgetting that there were others like them. But one day, they eventually cross paths with other explorers from the same group who reminds them who they are, where they came from and what each soul mate mean to another. This is a meeting of soul mates.

The roles vary from one lifetime to another such as your mother in this life may have been a brother or your child in a past life or the best friend you have had since childhood may have been your aunt last time around. Not everyone you meet is part of the same soul group, but it is likely that anyone who is a regular part of your life, or has impacted you in some way, is part of that group.

Before we enter our human bodies, our souls plan out what lessons we need to learn, what past errors we need to atone for and what we need to accomplish in this lifetime. The other souls in your soul group make “contracts” with your soul to help you achieve these goals and you make contracts with others to help them achieve their goals. In most cases, the more important the lesson, the chance of the souls being emotionally connected for a long time is increased. Once you and they have entered a body, these agreements are moved to a subconscious level. 

How It Works

If asked if there are certain members of your family that you are closer to, you can probably name at least one person that has always seemed to be there when you needed them. Did you ever have a boss or a teacher in school that you “clicked” with from the beginning? Most likely that person took you under their wing and mentored you. What about meeting someone that you instantly disliked or felt extremely uncomfortable around yet had no logical reason to do so? 

In all these cases, you may have been dealing with a soulmate. In each case, their soul and your soul recognizes a strong connection of some sort even though you consciously don’t recognize the why behind it. As you think back over those relationships, you can now look and see the times that you either learned a lesson or grew in some way. They helped you in some way. Even the negative encounters, if you think back, you will realize that it taught you something of importance. Maybe it was to forgive or you learned to stand up for yourself. 

It Works Both Ways

Meeting a soul mate isn’t just to help you learn and grow. Your soul has also promised to help other souls from your soul family. It is a bit more difficult to tell from this side of the relationship if you are someone’s soulmate. You may feel a special connection and feel that recognition, but it is hard to tell how much of an impact you have had on others. This is especially true if the impact was made during a brief encounter or in a way that it isn’t recognized until later. An example will best illustrate this concept.

A young woman ran a cash register during third shift. It was at a convenience store in a less than perfect part of town and an off-duty police officer was always around for security. In the mornings, local truckers would stop in to fill their tanks for the day and would pay with a company credit card that had their license plate as the ID number.

One of the regular truckers liked to joke and would repeat his ID number faster every day to see if she could catch the number and they’d share a laugh. The cashier noticed one day that this trucker wasn’t joking as much and had been losing a lot of weight. She asked, truly caring if he were okay.

He ended up coming in that night and started talking about a major life situation that was tearing him apart. He also mentioned he was sleeping in the company truck at night. There were tables in the back and he started coming in each night, sometimes talking and other times just sitting and reading. One night, after about two weeks, he didn’t show up and the cashier felt that something was wrong. She mentioned it to the security guard and he asked if she knew his name. She didn’t – but she knew the license number of his truck because of the early teasing. He sent out a message for people to look out for the man.

The cashier left for another job and thought about the man. It was two years later when she was entering the same store and a man was leaving. He looked at her and recited the license plate number and she immediately recognized him.

He told her that the night she had been concerned, the police did find him and locked him up for the night. He then confessed that night he had been preparing to commit suicide and being locked up prevented that. He told her he thanked her for having him hunted down.


A soulmate can turn into your lifelong partner, but more importantly, a soulmate is someone who helps you grow, learn and sometimes even survive. In essence, it is deep, soul-connecting love. 

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