Take This Waltz is a romantic movie, to be sure, but it’s about so much more than that. It’s a movie about the importance of stability in relationships. It’s a movie about being wildly in love, and falling head over heels for someone. But ultimately, it’s a story about the maturity of love.
The story focuses on Margot, a young freelance writer who is married to Lou, a cook. On the surface, the two have a happy marriage, but Margo longs for something more. More specifically, she longs for Daniel, another man she knows. She loves Lou, and there’s no doubt that what they have together is special, but it’s time for new experiences, and she no longer feels satisfied with him.
So, Margot and Daniel begin an affair. Although they wildly enjoy each other’s company, and have an exceptionally romantic time together, there’s no doubt that this is an affair, and that Margot is still linked to Lou, who was once the love of her life. Eventually, Geraldine, Margot’s sister, calls her out on her actions. The movie ends with Lou and Margot wondering where their life went, while all of this is paralleled with a montage of Margo’s high-flying fantasy life with Daniel.
Take This Waltz has three important tales to tell us about love. The first one is how important stability can be in a relationship. Indeed, the best, most long-lasting relationships are the ones that are the most stable. Throughout the movie, Margot is not happy with what she has with Lou; although she loves him still, she is growing bored and restless. But the solution, as Geraldine tells her, wasn’t to go after Daniel, and get with him instead. Rather, a reasonable solution would have been to talk to Lou about her problems. He is her husband, and is steady and faithful to her; he would have sat down with her and helped her work something out.
The second lesson about love in this film is high-flying, head-over-heels, wildly romantic love. Margot and Daniel had an amazing relationship together. It’s true that it was founded on adultery, but nevertheless their love for each other is pure and true. They love each other deeply, and they spend amazing times with each other—treasuring each moment, sharing in the love with each other. They are incredibly happy over what they had; in a way, they are almost like children.
Finally, the third—and most important—romantic lesson from this movie is the maturity that’s required in long-lasting relationships. When Margot told Lou about the affair and came back down to Earth, the two of them were both left picking up the pieces. It was finally time to move on, to bring things back to the way they were. She could no longer live in this fantasy; she could no longer pretend to be someone she wasn’t, as Geraldine indicated in her rude awakening. She had to return to maturity, and to true love with Lou.
Margot’s relationship with Lou won’t survive if she isn’t mature, and doesn’t tell him everything. If she is mature, however, and not only tells him the whole truth, but also takes steps to bring things back to the way before she became restless and dissatisfied, then they can work together on their relationship, and have a happy marriage. That, dear readers, is what true love is: caring for each other, even in the darkest of times, and working together on solving problems.