As women, we crave for a connection and intimacy with the special someone who will always be ours. The process of finding a soul mate might be complicated because let’s face it, there are more than 8 billion people in the world and the idea of choosing one to settle down for a lifetime might appear as if it’s unimaginable. When you have a conflict between the calling of your heart and reasoning of your mind, it is your gut feeling that will come to the rescue and lead you to the right path.
So how do you go about trusting your gut feeling and find out if he is truly the one for you? Well, even though there is no surefire way to predict the future or turn of relationships, these five ways may indicate that you have already found the one.
1. Everything feels natural
On interviewing numerous couples that have been married for a time between 20 to 50 years, it was concluded that they shared one thing in common. Everything felt relaxed in their relationship. As absurd as it may sound, there are people in the world that didn’t go through multiple relationships, bitter fights, or had to overcome the instances of infidelity to make it through.
Some relationships happened because two people met. They took a liking to each other. Started dating. Got married. And then they stayed married because they never stopped loving each other. In the right kind of relationship, one realizes that it may take the effort to keep the spark alive but doesn’t take grinding work.
2. No compromising on core values
Compatibility is perhaps the most important aspect of a long-term relationship because love alone doesn’t make the bond last. To understand if you are compatible with him, start by discovering if both of your core values align with each other. Do you both want to have kids in the future? What does the ideal date mean to you? How frequently do you want to have sex?
If you do not know the answers to these questions yourself, then determining if he is truly the one for you might be difficult. If you both agree on the major things, then the little things just tend to fall by the wayside.
3. Your family and close friends like him
If there are people who truly know us apart from ourselves, then it’s our closest friends and family members. In fact, studies suggest that the person we are closest to actually know most about us than we know about ourselves. So, to judge if he is truly the one for you, try and observe how your significant other gets along with other people you’re close with.
Be prepared to listen to an unpopular opinion, and have the patience to reflect on the cause why your friends and family might be thinking that staying in the relationship might not be what’s best for you.
4. He turns you on like no one else
If you sometimes get scared thinking how much he turns you on, it may be a sign that you’re into him as a whole and not just for the looks or certain traits of his personality. Being attracted to one’s body, mind, and soul is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world, which can put anyone in cloud nine. When you’ve found the right one, you’d want to show them off, introduce them to your friends and family, and take pride in the relationship.
You’ll want to know their thoughts and feelings, all about their sexual preferences and kinks, adore their body, the way how they smile, the wrinkles near their eye, and all the perfect imperfections that make them so unique. Every other feeling will fade in comparison to the one that comes with being in true love, and you would want to have it all the time.
5. All you want to do is make their life easier
People are natural born problem solvers, and we are always subconsciously trying to make our lives easier. When you truly love someone, you don’t just want to stay with them during the high parts of their life, but also when they’re going through a low. You’d want to help them live the happiest and the most uncomplicated lifestyle while helping them become the best version of themselves.
If your man truly loves you, you’ll regularly notice him doing things for you unconsciously. Things like putting his jacket over you when you’re cold, willingness to listen a dull day at work even while he’s tired, try to surprise you often, and so on. Your partner will not only be a support system but will actively inspire you to grow and help you achieve the feat that you once thought was impossible.
The absolute reality
Even though you might find a pool of people who are potentially compatible mates, it would take courage to commit to one of these people. Genuine commitment comes from saying “I choose to live my life with you”, and not revisit the choice. In reality, a commitment based on the belief that you found “the one” might turn out to be something built on a shaky foundation. However, if you choose to commit to one single person and try the absolute best to become each other’s life support, then you are on your way of forging a mutually respectful and loving relationship.
Everything being said and done, it wouldn’t be right to rule out the possibility of people just falling out of love. But hey, you don’t need to ruin what you have now by thinking about what would happen in the future. After considering all the points mentioned above, if you are actually convinced that he’s the one, there is a high chance that your gut feeling is leading you to the correct path once again.